Do you know the age-old advice of “ Don’t Compare Yourself to Others”? Well, I am here to fight that today.
I have never been a really competitive guy myself but when I do enter competitions, I normally find myself in 2nd place most of the time. It seems like don’t matter what I do or how hard I work, my destiny was to never reach 1st place.
I vividly remember always comparing myself with the person in 1st place and asking myself why I couldn’t be like him/her.
But comparing ourselves with someone “better ” is a sure-fire way…
If you knew me 5 years ago, I think you would have agreed with my parents and friends that I was a very stubborn person. I refused to be wrong and never listened to the advice of others because I was alright right.
I was that annoying friend that “proves everyone wrong”. I would never let a person go if he uttered a single idea that went against what I knew.
and My method for bringing them over to my side?
A constant stream and attack of facts and reasoning of why my idea/opinion was the best one. …
I remember when I asked my dad for advice the night before my first day at work.
His advice was always something along the lines of :
“You are young, you should work harder to satisfy your boss”
“You have to spend 5 years doing the boring work first before you can become a boss”
Most of the advice that he gave was about career progressions and never had anything to do with the day-to-day. Sure, working hard and also spending the first 5 years soaking up experience before being a manager has its value.
While there is advice out…
“Don’t compare yourself to others”
“Everyone’s situation is different, you shouldn’t be comparing”
“You can’t compare yourself to him, everyone is unique”
These are all advice that I am sure you have heard in your life at least once.
They all possess some value but they often don’t paint the whole picture. I mean we as humans are hardwired to well in society and that involves a whole lot of comparison with other humans too.
I mean how do you know how well you are doing if there is nothing to compare to? …
I still remember when I first got accepted to do the job. The excitement I felt when I saw “I am pleased to offer you the role of ….” on the return email of my job application.
I was buzzing with excitement from then on right until the minute I stepped into the office for the first time.
That excitement very quickly turned into anxiety and fear when I found out that I was the youngest and most inexperienced one on the team.
Thoughts like “What would they hire me if they have so many others who are better than…
I still remember the feeling of getting my first paycheck.
I was working as a part-time Barista whilst attending University full time. The fact that I could sacrifice some of my time for money is something that I wasn’t used to.
After a month of working, $500 landed in my bank account and I literally felt like I could buy whatever I wanted in the world.
So many possibilities, I could buy that pair of headphones I really wanted or save all of it for a few months and buy myself something really nice. …
One of the best pieces of money advice that I have gotten from anyone is to implement a money system or a budget. This advice comes from the book I will teach you to be rich by Ramit Sethi.
I have tried many variations of budgeting, from tracking every single cent that goes out to have a rough spending plan.
I tracked all of my spendings for 2 months before I called it quits. It felt like way too much effort. …
The use of paper in my daily life has been a never-ending back and forth battle. A peace between digital and paper tools was finally concluded this year and this article is a description of that battle.
It all started in the first year of University, where I was adamant not to repeat the high school experience of carrying around heavy textbooks and notebooks. So I said “let’s get one notebook for all the subjects and have all my textbooks on my laptop”.
It was a good setup except when I needed to reference the textbooks. It became increasingly difficult…
If you are a big fan of learning many skills then the process of learning or creating something new is familiar to you.
Over the past years, I have created many projects and systems both for work and for personal use and there always seems to be a phase of “getting used” to the system/project itself.
One that many don’t account for when time budgeting or one that many people often mistake for “this is too hard, I think this isn’t for me”.
I like to call this phase of anything new, the transient phase. It is the phase where…
I still remember when I first discovered Notion. I thought it was life-changing. An application that can track everything, that offered the ability to create systems and introduced me to the realm of productivity systems.
I was so excited. I jumped on the internet and googled “how to create the perfect Notion system”. And that was the first downfall of my Notion experience.
What then happened, was that I spent the next 100 hours of my life trying to create the perfect system.
I would scour the internet. Watching videos, reading articles on how others have utilized this brilliant application…
Engineer. Programmer. Currently in Sydney.